This week I’m thinking about current news events. It’s hard not to, especially yesterday when two major media icons have now been added to a list of sexual predators. Matt Lauer was fairly shocking to me, but at the same time I’m not that surprised. Garrison Keillor on the other hand was a complete shock to me and it’s a bitter pill to swallow. Hits closer to home since he’s local to us and at our house we were pretty big Prairie Home Companion fans. I’m so disappointed.
Now before I go on much further I just want to say that as a woman and a feminist, yes I support the victims and all the women coming out and sharing their stories. These men absolutely need to be held accountable for their actions.
But what I’ve been thinking about this week centers on being a boy mom. It’s my responsibility to make sure he learns how to respect women. And I keep wondering, how? How am I supposed to do that? But then I realize something huge.
He will learn by example. He has the best role model he could possibly have. His dad.
Yes I might be biased because obviously Nate is my husband, but he has always been the most honorable person when it comes to female relationships. I’ll always remember from years and years ago when we went on our first date he asked me if it was OK to put his arm around me at the movie theater. He didn’t just do it, he asked first. We were always on the same page about every step of our relationship, he never pressured me to do anything I didn’t want to do. I’ve always felt loved, comfortable and safe with him. And I’ve witnessed him with female colleagues, friends, relatives. He treats all of them with absolute respect. He’s one of the good ones.
This is what I will choose to focus on as these news stories continue to break, because I think we will keep hearing more of them. I don’t think this is over yet. But there are good men in the world like my husband. And good men raise other good men. My son will be a good man because he is being parented by a good man. This is what gives me hope.