Thinking Out Loud

Thinking Out Loud – Current Events

It’s Thursday so I’m linking up with both Penny’s Passion and Running with Spoons for Thinking Out Loud.

This week I’m thinking about current news events. It’s hard not to, especially yesterday when two major media icons have now been added to a list of sexual predators. Matt Lauer was fairly shocking to me, but at the same time I’m not that surprised. Garrison Keillor on the other hand was a complete shock to me and it’s a bitter pill to swallow. Hits closer to home since he’s local to us and at our house we were pretty big Prairie Home Companion fans. I’m so disappointed.

Now before I go on much further I just want to say that as a woman and a feminist, yes I support the victims and all the women coming out and sharing their stories. These men absolutely need to be held accountable for their actions.

But what I’ve been thinking about this week centers on being a boy mom. It’s my responsibility to make sure he learns how to respect women. And I keep wondering, how? How am I supposed to do that? But then I realize something huge.

He will learn by example. He has the best role model he could possibly have. His dad.

Yes I might be biased because obviously Nate is my husband, but he has always been the most honorable person when it comes to female relationships. I’ll always remember from years and years ago when we went on our first date he asked me if it was OK to put his arm around me at the movie theater. He didn’t just do it, he asked first. We were always on the same page about every step of our relationship, he never pressured me to do anything I didn’t want to do. I’ve always felt loved, comfortable and safe with him. And I’ve witnessed him with female colleagues, friends, relatives. He treats all of them with absolute respect. He’s one of the good ones.

This is what I will choose to focus on as these news stories continue to break, because I think we will keep hearing more of them. I don’t think this is over yet. But there are good men in the world like my husband. And good men raise other good men. My son will be a good man because he is being parented by a good man. This is what gives me hope.

9 thoughts on “Thinking Out Loud – Current Events”

  1. I love that you talk about this topic and that you’re concerned – as a mom of a boy – how to teach your child to be respectful of women.

    It’s awful what’s been coming out (and it’s important that it has!), but I need to be honest and say, there also needs to be a line somewhere… I heard about another Al Franken accuser this morning on the news and she said that they took a picture together and his hand touched her breast when he put his arm around her. I don’t know, I wasn’t there, but she probably asked for that picture with him and she had her arm around him to… could this have been MAYBE, just maybe a total unintentional accident? Is that something that someone should be publicly shamed and prosecuted for? Wouldn’t I just deal with that situation right there in the moment, not YEARS later with the media? I don’t know, as a woman I obviously support all victims of sexual harrassment and abuse, but I also feel like that some harmless incidents are made into something that they’re not. We gotta be careful here… or just decide that nobody touches anybody ever.
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    1. Thank you for your thoughts! I’ve been feeling the same conflicting feelings, I agree that I 100% support the victims, but like you wonder too at times if there were harmless incidents getting blown up into other things. i just don’t know. I also know someone personally who was wrongfully accused by someone because they were looking for money…sigh. It just is so hard. And it’s exhausting.
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  2. This is so beautiful, Beth, and a topic I keep thinking about myself. I wasn’t terribly shocked or surprised by Matt Lauer, but the one that really upset me was Al Franken, because I was a HUGE SNL fan back in the day, and I had just rewatched Stuart Smalley. But you’re absolutely right. And as horrible and awkward and uncomfortable as this all is, it’s a really important turning point in our country’s history. Because we are acknowledging that it’s not appropriate, not okay, and not to be tolerated under ANY circumstances.

    I love that your hubby asked if he could put his arm around you in the movie theater <3 SO sweet. Bryan did something similar on our first date (he actually pulled my sweater down so I wouldn't be cold) and I thought "wow, is this a unicorn?!" because the men I had been with before him were so handsy and well, not gentlemanly. It was a refreshing change 🙂 Sounds to me like your son is in the best hands possible and will grow up to be a very respectful young man <3
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  3. Great post! Your husband sounds wonderful – and he is a great role model for your son, as are you and the way you carry yourself and deal with people in your life. I get what you mean about 100% sticking up for the victims coming forward and that it’s GREAT that this is coming out and people are feeling more compelled to get justice for what they have been through…but at the same time it is easy to wonder if some situations were blown out of proportion or people using this opportunity to make things up. We can’t ever really know, so it’s tough, but again, it’s still important for these things to be spoken about and not swept under the rug anymore.

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  4. I don’t know why I was relieved that Nate was a good honourable man. I mean, you chose him, and you have good tastes. But I think it’s good to always say it. As a girl Mom, I find myself worrying about what I will say when my daughters want to wear short skirts, low cut shirts, or anything that can be revealing. The feminist in me says “it shouldn’t matter” but after years of being told to watch what I dress so I don’t give guys the wrong idea, I find myself heading down the same path because I want my girls to be as safe as possible. But it doesn’t make them seem any safer. But knowing there are moms out there worrying about their boys and making sure they learn from example? That makes everything feel a little safer (until I turn the news on again).
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  5. You are absolutely right- your son will learn by your example AND his father’s. He will see how his father treats you and other women.

    After all of these men stepping down due to allegations of assault/harassment I am like… are there ANY good men out there!? It is stunning.
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  6. This is something I think a lot about too, having a son. I think you’re so right about the importance of having a good role model, and I feel so lucky to have such a great husband as well. I think all we can do is be good examples for our kids and also have conversations (age appropriate ones of course) about what it means to treat other people with respect, about consent, etc. I think that can be challenging–when I grew up we didn’t talk about that kind of stuff at home–but I really want to with my kids so they can feel comfortable talking to me about anything, big or small.
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